Tuesday, August 18, 2020

Decluttering In Vain



Halloween Trampoline Everyday
Halloween trampoline = old costumes + firm mattress 

We attempted to declutter earlier but I realized it's hard to let go of the things we saved for when we first learned we were having a baby.  I got too sentimental. I tried to shoo away the feeling.  Instead of putting the stuff in the warehouse or in the laundry area, I figured someone else should make better use of some of the baby furniture and toys.  My sister-in-law is having a new baby but I think they already have the stuff they need.  We don't have a lot of toys (compared to some of our friends) but we don't have that much space either.

So I was ready to move on to our "next chapter" but I found out today my 4-year-old isn't.  As soon as I started packing her infant to toddler rocker, she got wipes & organic spray and started wiping the dust. "Mom, why are you selling it? I love this chair! I could still fit in."

So I didn't.  They now pretend it's a spaceship.  With a lion assistant.  It's hers and I should respect that. I'll let hubby do the springcleaning some other time. I don't have the heart to do it.

My hubby's former office space upstairs got invaded by toys.  Thank God he now has a permit to go out for work otherwise he will lose his mind. haha

Some people ask, "Why do you let that happen?"  I dunno. I guess I pity them that they are deprived of their right to play outside, hug their friends, and explore as much as they want to because of the pandemic.  So I allow them a lot of leeway these days in the house.  They even built a fort right in the middle of the kitchen and living room & a collapsible foam slide (made of mattresses and blankets) in our former study.  To hell with the dryer's fee.  I even let Leji do some murals on the walls.  I want my own inn & cafe someday and Leji could decorate like Solenn :P

They're obsessed with cartoons combatting viruses.  This afternoon I gave them a treat. I bought a kilo of rambutan. Lej said they resembled the coronavirus in their videos; Leon squealed in delight as they chased each other with the fruits.  They didn't watch that much tv today.  They were preoccupied with the rambutan for several hours.

I kept saying several months back that I would never enroll my kids in a formal school unless scientists could come up with a good vaccine because they don't know the concept of social distancing.  But to my surprise, I think now they do.  My sister Aya visited us recently and when she asked them if they want to hug, they refused.  They distanced themselves from her and reminded her that there's a virus. haha.  So I guess when the time comes and they would request me if they could apply in a formal school, I think I will allow it.  I'll just make them bring their own writing materials and alcohol spray.

Catch Aya in her newest teleserye, Ang Sa Iyo Ay Akin on Kapamilya Channel!  Virtual elbow rub!

Tuesday, August 11, 2020

MECQ Lessons



Our setup is far from ideal.  As the government banned travel for leisure this 2020, my kids & I have been on lockdown for several months.  With the absence of a babysitter, I couldn't leave even just for groceries unless hubby is back home from work.   Even when the government lifted measures for some time, it had been wise to remain inside.  We've been homeschooling even before the onset of Covid-19, but despite the normalcy of homeschool they're itching to get out and run outdoors.  They're very much aware of the virus (thanks to all the cartoon infomercials) and the need for social distancing.  There were times my 4-year old just had random bursts of fear & frustration, craving for the freedom they once enjoyed.  They miss their grandparents and all our friends they used to have playdates with.

The first few months were extremely challenging.   I had to deal with my own anxiety while helping my loved ones cope with the new normal.  But I also saw this as a great opportunity to train the kids how to be resilient and see the positive in any situation.  I believe it's never too early to teach; we plant the seeds and water them little by little.  And hard as it is, they learn best by example.

As we live in the city and we don't have a proper garden for the kids to explore, I just draw the curtains during daytime so they can get as much vitamin D as possible from Mr. Sun.  Experts say it helps prevent & minimize the blues. We appreciate the few houseplants we have on the terrace & indoors.  We enjoy the daily morning concerts of the endemic birds we have in our street.  We try to be grateful for all the little things.

Leji dabbles a bit in housework.  We purchase perishables from our neighbors twice a week.  After cleaning the vegetables, I allow my 4-yr old to trim her fave kangkong or broccoli with shears so I could roast them.  She could also slice bread, cheese, potatoes & apples with a bread knife.  She could help measure ingredients for cookies and cakes.  When she feels like it, she washes plastic utensils and rinses fruits for consumption.  She could also tell if the laundry's already dry (they're not cold anymore!), fold, and sort clothes.  When she's tired in between I allow her to rest; I don't force her to do anything she's not interested in. She could bathe and dress independently but under close supervision. She knows how to clean up her toys and drain the bath tub too!

We engage in all the "extra curricular" activities they want to try online. We've tried basic sketching, crafts, origami, Flamenco, ballet, yoga, a capoeira, piano, basketball and even taekwondo. So far Leji enjoys Flamenco and sketching (of ponies and insects) while Leon likes dance & a baby yoga.  Since they're very young and they don't have the attention span to finish an actual class with classmates, we just access whatever is available on Youtube so we could pause and repeat any time we like.  Our goal is just to expose them to what's available.  They could decide later on what they want to pursue longterm when they turn 5 or 7. I dunno, we just have to go by gut feel.  Skill mastery calls for another blog post :p

To avoid the bedtime drama (after several months of struggling to make them sleep), we abolished a fixed bedtime.  I don't advise everyone to do this; but now with less work and commitments, I just think of this as a vacation in another timezone. After all this is over (or if and when we decide to enroll them in a formal school), I believe with God's grace they can train themselves wake up for an early calltime/schedule.  Maturity begets responsibility.  I close the doors and windows at night and allow them to run around the house and jump on the couch/bed to use their pent up energy.  I also allow them to watch educational videos and engage in homeschool activities any time of the day. Curiosity is a good jumping board for learning.

My One PH Co-host MJ Marfori suggested I should revive my blog & record my experience with the apps we've tried.  So here's a list of some of what we've tried:


This is the first app we tried for reading.  My cousin-in-law Chi recommended this last year when she observed that the kids already knew the alphabet sounds.  Up to now we haven't exhausted the activities in the free mode (their attention span is quite short. Leon can only stand it 5mins max at a time; he's a little bit more competitive when he sees his older sister enjoying it).  It incorporates catchy rhymes and easy to read stories to help kids remember and blend phonetic sounds.  They have math games too.  My 4yr old can appreciate some of the second grade introductory materials.


This app is best enjoyed in an I-pad or tablet. They have better graphics than Starfall and catchier lesson starters but most of the time the kids only like using the phone (the tablet is too heavy for them to carry around). More than math and reading, here they could also enjoy science videos & logic games too. Some people print out worksheets too but I prefer just buying affordable exercise books for the kids.


This is one of the most well-advertised learning apps to date and we're not done yet with our free month.  Some people post bad reviews about it and say that the trial month is not entirely free (I will find out in my next credit card bill) but so far this has been keeping Lej constantly excited about Science.  It features clips from awesome Youtube shows like Sci Show Kids, National Geographic, and Dr. Binocs.  From there they ask kids questions where they get to earn stars and badges. 

I initially tried this for Math, but Leji complained that some of the math questions are wordy, confusing, and sometimes not practical in the Philippines. Some of the items also cannot recognize capital letters (so if you type 'Triangle' in the box, it would mark it wrong even if the answer is indeed 'triangle').  It has barely been a month but Lej has already obtained all the items from the virtual gift shop :/ She's been asking me: "What now? What can I get next?"  I really don't know.

I don't like it that they limit the amount of math you could do in a day. Sometimes it takes more than one problem to explain a concept to the eager kid and we end up answering most items together (I mean that's normal, right? She's only 4. We use actual food, sticks, stones, her magnetic doodle board, her fingers, and her toes as counting aids).  The kid still wants to practice more using the app & they urge the kid to do other things. It leaves you hanging most of the time. Or probably that's their psychological tactic to make the kids crave for it. Or probably that's the healthy amount of practice time using gadgets. Hmm, basta bitin.

They also have Reading and Social Studies (World History) but as of the moment both parts are under construction. One can only try a bit of both. 


Leon loves this app even if he could barely read the instructions. He's currently obsessed with the Pacman-like character & the alien monsters. We haven't passed thru that level yet.


I accessed this app primarily to track Leon's skills and somehow gauge if he's ok or falling behind. So far so good.  Girls just mature faster than boys on the average.  But as for the free activities available, we only take them as suggestions. At this point, he won't allow himself to be trapped by a schedule.  He seldom allows himself to be recorded singing or dancing on video.  He incorporates the positioning, trajectory, and transporting schemas in most of his games without me having to direct him or facilitate the activity.  He never runs out of ideas (so who am I to impose? :p)  He could play with his toys in ten different ways & even play with recyclables and boxes.  

Any other apps or games you have tried?  Just message me if you have any recommendations. Easier said than done but have fun at home this MECQ!  We already rehearsed for this last summer :p

Friday, January 10, 2020

Pseudo Heart Attack

I thought I was going to die last Monday.

I know it's quite morbid especially since it's the start of a new year and my kids are still very young but I really thought they had to open me up. The pain was excruciating.  It was like someone was poking needles and squeezing my left lung & shoulder.  It was worse than giving birth (I had epidural support..so on second thought, yeah probably just as painful).

It started with the usual back pains travellers experience after carrying kids & bags at the airport. At NAIA3 they cruelly get your personal lightweight strollers & leave it with the bags on the conveyor belt lightyears away (even if they have special tags) so you wouldn't be able to use it when you need it most...When you groggilly get off the plane in a delayed red-eye flight, your kids are sleeping, you have to carry bags & kiddie snacks with their dead weight, the airport passenger assist vehicle has flat tires & you have to go through immigration in agony. Why again do they charge airport tax?!? Why? Why couldn't we use the wheelchairs on standby?

Anyhow, fastforward to two days later, I still felt sluggish so we booked a massage.  The day after, I felt a little better so I went back to helping hubby clean up the house before Chinese New Year and move some of the stuff to the third floor.  For some strange reason I felt lethargic after less than thirty minutes of spring cleaning. I tried to sleep it off.

But the pain just got worse. At 4am the next day, I felt like someone punched my lower left lung. "Uh, probably just acid reflux." I washed it down with a bit of warm water and cookies and headed straight to a final casting while the kids were asleep.  I had to finish this before a taping in the afternoon.

On the road, the pain worsened.  It came to a point that heavy breathing and gulping made it worse.

I was determined to go to the casting since it's my first this 2020.  Sadly, I wasn't able to do it. After like an hour or so of waiting for my turn, I had to excuse myself and run to the ER just to make sure it wasn't a heart attack.  I couldn't even stand straight at this point; the guards came to the rescue and hailed a cab for me to Cardinal Santos. Grab Car seemed to take forever.

The driver looked a lot like my great grandfather in heaven.  Same Moroccan profile.  He was so kind to drive like we were in a drag race so he could alleviate my pain.  I didn't know a guy his age could drive like that; it was awesome.

I was wheeled right in.  As they were putting on my IV, I prayed: "Lord, if I'm going to die today please make my husband healthy so he can take care of the kids and get a younger and healthier wife before he reaches 60."

They performed an ECG & pregnancy test right away (I'm two months delayed and they had to make sure I wasn't preggo before all the x-rays). Negative.

They checked my chest and abs for broken bones. Negative. They checked my kidneys for possible stones. Negative again.

I know these are all reasons for rejoicing if not for the toe-twisting pain which got worse when I lay in bed or breathed.  I dreaded I missed a taping in ABS for this afternoon of agony we're not even sure what the cause was after all the tests.

Their theory was it was UTI-induced pain.  But even Tramadol, Norgesic, Buscopan and Pregabalin weren't enough to drive it away.

I begged my husband to take me straight to the acupuncturist.  But the ER doctors said the pain management center was closed and you have to schedule in advance. Ugh.

My parents took my kids in for three days and my in-laws took us in for another three while we dealt with my unresolved pain.  Any movement and shift in position made it worse.  I was already nearing overdose of Paracetamol and I still couldn't sleep, eat, and walk properly.

Dr Jake (in Whiteplains) and Dr Philip Nino Tan-Gatue (in Maginhawa) are heaven-sent.  I'm not a fan of the scent of burnt mugwort grass (it makes me cough actually) but I guess it helped.  They managed to flush the bad cold air out of my system.  It took me three acupuncture sessions to make the pain tolerable. I had to avoid cold food, drinks, places and showers for a week. I had to put socks on all the time because my feet were often ice cold.

I wasn't allowed to breastfeed Leon the entire time I was on meds and antibiotics.  Despite the pain and muscle contractions, I pumped at least once each day.  I have so little milk to begin with & I get so much less when I'm stressed but I stubbornly want to continue on with comfort feeding at naptime/ night for as long as he wants so I treaded on.

On the fourth day I weaned myself off Pregabalin and Norgesic. On the fifth, I stopped taking Paracetamol. 18hrs after my last dose of antibiotic, I allowed him to latch even if there wasn't any milk coming out just so he would be able to sleep & he would send a signal to my brain that I should start producing more milk the next day.  Some say I should have waited three days before I started feeding him again, but I was in graver danger of losing my milk as I noticed I barely produced an ounce (both sides combined).  Believe me, it's just harder to put him to sleep and make him eat table food when he doesn't get his dose of breastmilk.

It's more than a week now.  I'm not bitter anymore with NAIA3 or with the pain's nasty timing.  Our parents babied us this week and I'm more than grateful for their prayers and concern. I'm just praying for more projects this 2020 & that my husband will get a younger-looking, healthier wife (still me!)